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At my writers conference, I bought a book.

Yes. Just one.

It’s a 90-day devotional called Navigating the Blues. I read it on mornings I wake feeling low.

Last week, the author helped me see 1 Corinthians 13 in a new way. Known as the “Love Chapter,” it’s often used for weddings and in anniversary cards because it teaches us how to love people.

But have you ever applied it to yourself? I haven’t. It may feel a bit weird, wrong, or self-centered. But, it’s not.

Because we are people too.

Decades ago, my kids were taught J.O.Y. = Love Jesus, Others, & You. And I get it. There are times to put others ahead of ourselves, but when learning unconditional love, maybe we should flip it.

In Matthew 22:37-39, Jesus says, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”

So, if we want to love others better, we have to love ourselves better.

Questions to consider:

Are you snarky and judgy with yourself? (I am.)

I Corinthians 13:4 says, “Love is patient and kind …”

Are you patient with yourself and kind to your own soul?

We can’t fully give what we don’t have. As we aim to treat others with respect, empathy, and compassion, will we give ourselves the same grace?

How will you be patient and kind with yourself today? 🤗

☮💗Robin

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Grief & Joy Can Coexist?

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Sheesh. Grief. It’s unpredictable, isn’t it?

Sometimes it wafts in on a gentle breeze and other times it hits us like a thunderstorm.

Forty-two years ago, our daughter Ashley Nicole was born on May 1st and passed on the 10th. It’s also my brother’s birthday month. He died suddenly at age twenty-eight. And of course there’s Mother’s Day coming and missing my mom.

I know, you know sorrow too.

Grief is utterly uninvited and unwanted. It wars against every fiber in us because we’re wired to love and nurture life, not to say goodbye.

Whether it’s the loss of a job, a dream, or a relationship ~ grief is our common and unavoidable human experience. But while it’s absolutely universal, it’s intensely personal. And it’s often a lonely place.

So we’re careful not to stuff it or run from it. We breathe deep and sit with the pain.

We let our tears release what our minds can barely accept and what our bodies should not hold on to.

With grit and grace ~ courage and gentleness ~ we make a raw choice to keep our emotions moving up, out, and forward. Because we don’t want to give pain the last word and let it rob us of joy and peace. We want to thrive in this life, don’t we?

Thank God, for this beautiful paradox: We can turn grief around ~ for our good and the good of others.

A few years ago, I started a tradition. On Ashley’s birthday, I go to Jewel-Osco and ask if I can pay for a pre-ordered birthday cake. The first year, the manager showed me a cake with “Happy Birthday, Oma” written in pink frosting. So I blessed Oma, her family, and the bakery manager.

This fun tradition gives me happy tears and honors our baby girl’s memory.

This is Ashley Nicole’s legacy: To redeem pain for good. To trade ashes for beauty, and sadness for joy.

But maybe this message is too soon for you. If so, please know you are not alone. And if it seems you can’t move forward with your grief, maybe it’s time to talk to a counselor. I’ve spoken to many through the years.

Wherever you are today, I pray you experience God’s comforting presence. May you find Peace and Happy Tears.

“To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the Lord has planted for his own glory.” ~ Isaiah 61:3

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Be Strong When You are Weak

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Through Christmas and into this new year, a word … one word … kept coming to mind.

Strong.

As this gem repeated from various sources, I realized it was a love note from God. So I tucked it away in my heart. Not too far, because I had an inkling I’d need it.

And oh my friend do I need it. As I grow from being an author to booking speaking engagements … I whisper it a lot.

Strong.

God often tosses us into new things before we feel ready, doesn’t He? One reason we don’t feel ready is because we have these darn human limitations telling us, “Nope. Can’t do it. It’s too hard.”

In 2 Corinthians 12, the apostle Paul has a “thorn in the flesh.” We don’t know his limitation, but three times he begs the Lord to take it away. Each time, God says:

“My grace [presence, unmerited divine assistance] is all you need. My power works best in weakness.”

And here’s Paul’s response:

“Once I heard that, I was glad to let it happen. I quit focusing on the handicap and began appreciating the gift. It was a case of Christ’s strength moving in on my weakness.” ~ 2 Cor. 12:10

I love this paradox. How God flips the script on our human reasoning. What we see as weakness, He sees as the perfect place to show up strong ~ in us, for us, and through us.

Where do you need God to show up strong? May we let it happen and find that sweet spot where our human limitations meet His limitless power.

“When I am weak, then I am strong.” ~ 2 Cor. 12:10

Do you have a word or promise that helps you in this new year? I’d love to hear about it.

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Having an Un-Traditional Christmas?

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“…Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made…Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better …” ~ Luke 10:40-42

Our military moves kept us far from family. For seven years, we packed our two little boys into or Honda Civic and traveled home for Christmas. On Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, we’d dash to see all the grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins.

We returned home with a trunk stuffed with gifts but our Christmas cheer was lost somewhere between Grandma’s house and exit 145. We were exhausted amid mountains of laundry and sugared up kids.

It felt like we missed Christmas. So the next year we stayed home and started our own family traditions.

In this season made for celebrating Jesus, what’s depleting your energy and Christmas cheer?

Gift-buying? Decorating? Maybe you dread being with people who, year after year, are just plain difficult. Maybe you’re grieving someone who won’t be there. Maybe you’re exhausted trying to keep up with traditions.

I want to share a bit of encouragement from Lori Ann Wood, a friend who was forced into a difficult holiday season.

“I’ve learned to give myself grace to live the holiday season that is placed in my hands right now. To let go of the should-be’s and the ideals [of traditions.] To grasp the unique joy that only this season of life can offer.”

“If you’re having an untraditional Christmas this year, it may be the perfect time to start making some new memory moments. Whether you’re missing someone or somewhere or something that used to form traditions, your unusual holiday can be fertile ground for planting some brand-new memories. And maybe by letting go of some traditions, we are leaving more space for what’s coming—the Ultimate Gift.”

Read Lori Ann’s “Help to Survive An Untraditional Christmas”

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